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School? What school? 5 years 6 months ago #124

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It's that time of year again!! School is starting!
You spend hours on the phone with your friends discussing which teachers you'll have, what accesories to buy, and what rules were dropped or added.

Yes, it can be a very nerveracking time. Esspecially if you are starting in a new school, going up to 9th grade, or don't have a school yet.

I myself am pretty nervous for starting 12th grade. I just know things will be different and it's my last year.
Even though baruch hashem I have a lovely school, I twice have been in the last minute place where I still don't have a school the week before schools start, or even after school starts.

I know how it feels when everyonbe is talking about schools and your just like "school? What school?" It's awful. You feel like no one wants you, like somehow you aren't good enough. You have been stereotyped, categorized, mislead, degraded, lied too, or ignored. But I want you to know that here, you can share your fears and worries. It's okay. It's okay that you weren't accepted.

Some people can't see how precious you are and that's their problem. I know you've prob. heard that line about 50 times, and similar comments from people who "know". Who think they know- but don't.

I know. I have been there.
I want to share some of my expirinces, thoughts, ideas, and advice.

1. Everyone has a school that is right for them. It may not be your best friend's school, or a school in your city, or even your state or country. You may have not even heard of your future school yet. Be open to ideas. Don't think going out of town or the country is nebachy. It's NOT. G-d knows what school is right for you. I promise you, you will find it. It may not be what you expected, but I assure you when you find it, and give it a try, you'll be so thankful. So many times in life we say "I would never do.....". Never say never. Keep an open mind, you may have to conform about the geographical location of your new school. You have to get up at 6am. Or dorm. But it's worth it for the school that's good for you. A school where you will be appreciated, find great friends, and have caring good teachers. If you find a school that's right for you in that way- even if it's in Arizona- you won't be jealous of your friends.

So. Conform about the geographical location. But DON'T conform about your spirituality standards.

2. Right now you feel unwanted. Uncared for. The big- REJECTED. While you look for your good school, it may take time. You may find it a wek before school starts, a few hours before, or after Chanuka. But have patience. Meanwhile, don't site at home. Go find a regular job, chesed. Make sure to hang out with your old friends, camp friends, cousins, and family- (people who you feel wanted around) often. Go over to their house and help them decorate their binder. Help them study, quiz them with flash cards, bake them yummy muffins before a big test that you would ussually be studying for. (You can also do this after, in your new school if your tests are o9n different days! ;)

Be patient. Make sure you have support from friends and family.

I hope this helps you girls!!
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