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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #176

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Hi I'm a jewish American princess.... in therapy... and wondering if anyone here can help me... and I post it dovka here since I want it from teens perspective only!! I started for one main reason and that is sorted out... so do I cont. or not?? (I'm have another issue too.) When do I know okay it's enough and I should move on... and another thing how open should I be with my mentor?? im honest and all, but didn't share everything with her... do you think that is hindering my recovery??
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #183

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So I'm no expert- but you did ask for a teenage opinion so here goes...

Firstly, be sooo grateful that you got that issue you came there sorted out. Such a blessing. Sometimes more issues can reveal their ugly heads, so why not sort them through. then you have the advantage of being an ADULT Jewish American Princess with a whole lot more clarity and direction than someone still grappling with childhood issues.

About being open... it seems like you've already developed a connection with your therapist, no? So the trust is there. That's a whole lot more than everyone else has starting therapy for the first time. Be open about the beneficial things for your situation; it's never gonna hurt.

How much of this do you agree with> At the end of the day you call the shots!!
'A person can't decide to sit on the sidelines in this world. Once we're born, we're on the playing field that means we have to pick up that ball of life's challenges and begin running with it towards our goal'
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #184

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Hey!! Good for you for going to therapy!

Personal opinion is yes, to both. Go for it!! If you are already there, and have the opportunity to go and get help, than do so... therapy only really helps for basically emotionally healthy people... if you can be healthier than you are, than take the chance....

Good luck
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #194

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I have not much more to add than Hatzlacha!
I think therapy is helpful for anyone, and if you have more things besides the main problem it could help you with, and as you put it yourself "jewish american princess" you have a chance to get as much help as you need right now! You are so very lucky! I know so any people who can't get it because they aren't considered princesses.
If you like and trust your mentor, go ahead!!
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #198

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Thanks all for the replies.... oh yes.. I came in regarding one issue.. but yeah some other ugly things revealed as a result... I don't know although my main reason for starting out is okay now... I'm still far from good.. but really I'm not all that interested in working through them yet.... problem is that I took this upon myself... no one forced me to.... and well by now that I revealed there is no turning back.... giving it up now is plain a commitment to failure I know that... yet on the other hand I feel so vulnerable there.... there is trust there is everything.. but somehow I don't feel all that comfortable sharing everything with her face to face.... I have no issues though poking myself out on the phone or in writing...just when it comes to talking its murderous... anyway this was some ramble.... ha be well all!
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #200

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Why not discuss that with her? Or write what you would like to say instead of speaking it?
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #203

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These days people do therapy over skype too. Would that option be easier for you??
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #206

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Yea... I'm often better at writing. Sometimes if there's a subject I'm hesitant to talk about (even with a friend..) I'd write it down and read it out loud, then all of a sudden the topic doesn't seem to scary to discuss anymore.

Make sense?
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #208

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Nope its to impersonal... I kind of look forward to this twice a week that I have to unload and heal and discuss whatever is on my mind.... I don't think ill get the same by skyping.....
I like that Malki! I think ill try that.... I constantly do it, but in my mind... it never really works though since it doesn't come out the way I want if at all!! thanks.... have a git gebentcht yur!!
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #232

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Hey Malki. just wanted to thank you for this brainy idea since I did it and really helped me... I was actually laughing while I was doing it how crazy it sounds talking to myself.. but the bottom line is.. that it was much easier for me to say what I had to...
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #233

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You should know you are so lucky to have this chance BTW, not everyone gets it.
Glad to hear its going well!
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #235

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Hey JAP

Wasn't such a brainy idea but I'm glad it worked for you... you got good results at the end?? You just gotta make sure nobody overhears you talking to yourself or you'll definitely get a few suspicious glances!
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My musings on therapy 5 years 2 months ago #238

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oh yes it was actually very funny to the point where I was actually crying... and I was thinking to myself that by the time ill get to her office I wont be able to cry anymore... but I did.. and yes Hadas Bat-el I sure appreciate how lucky I am landing with the right person right away...I have a friend who is just busy changing therapists all the time...she didn't fit yet right with anyone...and I cant imagine going through that I would dropped it all.... so I do have to thank god for that.. and I was actually asking him to help me connect with her right away...and it helped....
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My musings on therapy 4 years 2 days ago #634

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So awesome! That si a great idea to do cuz the real tough stuff are murder to talk about. But my rule is the harder it is to talk about the more pain it must be causing me- EVEN IF I DONT THINK SO!!!!! Good luck. Hope u reach that place of inner peace soon
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